14 May Sticks and Stones
Posted at 19:53h
Sticks and stones can break your bones but words can never hurt you” Did you grow up hearing that?
It’s not true.
Words hurt as much or sometimes way worse than physical can. Even behind computer screens. And people pleasing is a real problem. We want to be “liked” This is a big theme in my new book “aging in reverse”
What I know for sure: Behind every success is a STORY of someone who pushed through others opinions and mean-ness. A story of someone who learned to believe in themselves even when others did not- A story of someone who put themselves out there EVEN WHEN they were afraid of what others might say. A story of someone who turned pain into purpose. And the most successful ones SHARE this.
AND I also know THIS:
Behind every internet troll, and bully, is a VERY HURT little boy or girl just wanting to be seen, be heard and be loved. That’s all they want.
It’s not that we shouldn’t -“care what others think” it’s actually that we should CARE that everyone just wants to feel seen, heard and loved.
If you want more of that in YOUR life, be it to others. Don’t be that troll.
If you watched my IG story last night you saw just a tiny glimpse of what I experience with trolls. And I’m not so tough that they never hurt. They do… I can’t control them but I CAN control how I show up to others. And I’m committed to seeing that little girl or boy in everyone that just wants to be loved.
Many of you have asked me how I stay a young 48 year old – this is a key ingredient: expressing, feeling, sharing and connecting AND looking for that little girl or boy in everyone.
Grab a copy of my Aging in Reverse Book HERE!